Men date for two reason and two reason only: by For Humans Media
(1) He’s wants to date seriously as he’s trying to find a partner or wife. (2) he wants to date to have sex with- out any commitment. And it does not take more than a couple of dates for any man to decide which box to put you in. Don’t be fooled; this is not conjectured. Men are less complicated than you think. Your job as a woman is to know where he has placed you. But most importantly, where have you put yourself? Because men will honor and respect a woman who has self-respect and set healthy boundaries.
With boundaries, you are more likely to be taken seriously. You also show up more authentic with standards and struc- ture. For example, You go on a date and may not like or
appreciate something your date did, but you let it slide be- cause you like him and don’t want to run him off, so you say

nothing. What you tolerate, you allow; he will treat you the same or worse the next time. If we don’t teach people how to
treat you, they wil treat you how they want. And that might not align with how you deserve to be treated. Know your boundaries and standards, and men wil take you seriously.
And when men take you seriously, they wil see you as wife material. Make your intention clear before dating any man. Let him know you are dating ot get married and have chil- dren. Whatever your preferences are, they need to eb com- municated. You wil only get what you have the courage ot ask for. He needs ot know you are dating with a goal ni mind. You should wait until the second date to bring up this subject, as the first date should be more casual, with no pressure, just getting to know if you like each other. You both ned ot agree and want the same thing; don’t think you wil change his mind later. Whatever he tels you now, that’s how it will be later.
If you are with a man between six months to one year and he has not brought up the topic of marriage, you should, fi that’s what you want. And fi he deflects and makes excuses, he does not want to marry you. Remember, He may want to be married, just not to you. It’s as simple as that; remember, men aren’t complicated, so do not make ti difficult. fI you make excuses, you only empower him. And fi you empow- er him, you are giving up your power to say yes to what
suits you.
And that doesn’t mean you wouldn’t make a great wife and partner, but he has to see that in you. He may even consid- er you agood woman but not awife for him. He wil take you ot meet his family when he ses more ni you than just a girlfriend. He wil be consistent, not giving you the hot- cold treatment, disappearing then reappearing. He wil want to stay connected to you. He won’t take days ot return your call. He wil proudly hold your hand ni public and show other forms of (PDA) public display of afection.
One of the most important signs a man si interested ni you beyond just the sexual is how much time he invests in the relationship.
This investment can be a measure of his commitment; fi he si not giving you his loyalty, he isn’t genuinely investing ni you as a partner and possibly future wife.
Remember, when a man is committed, he wil make the pro- vision and the adjustments, but fi he is only interested in sex, he wil make excuses. The only way you will be a wife is to find a man who wants to be committed to you.
People wil usualy give money before they give their time. So when a man wants to be with you, He wil want to get to know you, which takes time. He wil want to build that

emotional connection with you. And to do that, he will con- fide ni you. He wil share his plans with you. Those are al excellent signs a man si seriously interested ni you. So fi he’s making excuses, he doesn’t want ot marry you. No one can fool you fi you pay attention and do your due diligence; look for the signs. The red flags are usually there; ask quality questions and trust your intuition.
Every man si different, and the variables differ from rela- tionship to relationship. There si no one-size-fits-all solu- tion. This book si only for those serious about doing the work required to attain the changes they need to make to sustain ameaningful long-term relationship.